Dating book by steve harvey
Dating book by steve harvey - stop teen dating abuse
A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded.It tells him that what you have- your benefits- are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them.
Because holding on to that baggage can be paralyzing; it can cripple you and keep you from performing in your next encounter.There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel secure about such a thing, and many women with fewer dating and sexual experiences find making and negotiating “wait” rules helpful.To them, cementing rules make them feel powerful and in control of their bodies and their sex. Many of the women in my circle, who share my age and experience, completely dismiss the ninety-day dating rule as pure and utter bullsh*t.Hey, these women are veterans- many are married (or divorced) with children and mortgages, and know better than to rely on rules that ultimately inhibit them from doing what they want.One friend commented, “If I wait three months for sex and its wack, I’m going to be pissed. ” For a woman who has limited time to date and frolic, trying to uphold rules surrounding desire can be viewed as repressive, and plain nonsensical.Often, instead of women meditating on whether or not they want to have sex and how that sex will affect THEM, they are caught up in trying to determine how having sex will make them look in the eyes of their lovers, families and friends.
What is lost in translation is pleasure and freedom, which is really what sex is all about anyway, yes? Listen to what Steve Harvey himself has to say about why women should practice the three-month rule here.That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.” ― Steve Harvey, “All I'm telling you to do is to be smart about it.As a divorcee well into her thirties with plenty of “dating the wrong guy” experience, and as someone who studies and discusses women, desire and relationships often, I won’t count out a woman’s need to investigate her own feelings about sharing sex and the expectations that follow- AND how those expectations will affect her feelings of self worth and esteem.A woman who understands that she becomes extremely emotionally attached to her partner post-coitus may need significant time to determine who her potential partner is and where the relationship may go after sex.Over wine the other day, though, a group of sister-friends and I had a chit-chat about one segment of the book that we felt As a feminist and one who advocates for women to be released from all rules that govern how, when, where and why we sex, I am totally against blanket guidelines being provided to women (who obviously have had unsuccessful relationships and are looking for answers) that may or may not be beneficial to them as individuals.